Pat Kennedy - Your Washington, DC Real Estate Connection


"So, did you sell a house today?"

 This is to all of the spouses and sweeties of real estate agents out there.

Once upon a time, I had a very nice ex-husband who greeted me at the end of each day as I walked in the door, totally pooped from a hard day on the streets, with a great big smile and a, "Did you sell a house today?????"  He was up and excited and there was no other answer I wanted to give than "Yes!"  

But when you're in real estate, there tend to be more days when you don't than when you do.  It's the height of your week when a transaction falls together!  And when it works, you run in the door to greet your sweetie, your hyper-active-Labradoodle or the cats with a "Guess what!!!!!  I sold a house today!!!!!  Woo Hoo!!!!!"

My second husband did the same thing, and with some difficulty I managed to retrain him.  I started to think that maybe everyone who lives with a real estate agent just does that!  That enthusiastic wish to be supportive?  Well, it just isn't.

Sometimes it can even be a little dangerous to simply ask, "How was your day?"  In this business, you could really get an earful!

Comment balloon 17 commentsPatricia Kennedy • January 28 2008 07:12AM


Patricia, my wife will rarely ask such a question, but does beam with delight when I tell her that I'm meeting with a new client or that I have indeed sold a house today!
Posted by Brian Block, Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate (RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President) over 12 years ago

I got my husband good.  When he asked me " Did you sell a house today?" I responded with, "Did you refer someone to me today?"  He got the picture that he is as much a part of my business as I am.  He's one of my marketing arms.  So now, if he can't say yes about the referal, he doesn't ask about the sale.

See how it works for you.



Posted by Della Lambert (Keller Williams Consultants Realty) over 12 years ago
I am more realistic. I ask my agents did you sell anything today! Yes it is true. what you are saying. My wife holds up 2 fingers that is what she want me to sell a week.
Posted by Charlie Ragonesi, Homes - Big Canoe, Jasper, North Georgia Pros ( over 12 years ago
Patricia - My husband has learned "DON'T ASK"  Just leave me alone.  It I had a great day or sold a home I will tell him. 
Posted by Melissa Davis, Broker/GRI. Sumter SC (CENTURY 21 Hawkins & Kolb) over 12 years ago
Patricia, David does do that....and I do have to admit that there are times.........! Very cute graphic and while you like my photos, I like your graphics. I hope you have one of those woo hoo days!
Posted by Jeanean Gendron, Specializing in Selling Unique Properties (The Address Realty) over 12 years ago

Pat, my sweet husband wants to start a support group:  Husbands of Realtors. 

When I walk in the door from a long day of showings, I just want peace and quiet so I can organize my notes and thoughts. My husband always wants to hear all about it as soon as I hit the door.  I think it's sweet that he is interested, except that I have learned he doesn't remember a thing I tell him.

Posted by Amanda Evans, Real Estate Broker - Fort Worth Texas (DFW Living) over 12 years ago
My husband finds it all very interesting or else he's just being nice!
Posted by Gaye Granice, Associate Broker (Robert Defalco Realty) over 12 years ago

Patricia- Well, let's see- yes, it does happen even when both are in the business. Nestor will be on appointments during the day as I am here in our home office negotiating deals or marketing and he will come home and say, what did you sell today? I then ask back, What did you sell today? :) 

Nah, most of the time we are together so the question would be too stupid to ask! Katerina 

Posted by Katerina Gasset, Get It Done For Me Virtual Services (Get It Done For Me Virtual Services ) over 12 years ago
Hi Patricia, Yeah everyday in real estate does not produce a sale for me.  In years past, it did but not now that I'm older.  Two reasons - too many other realtors now and I'm older and refer a lot of my customers to others.  LIfe is short, so I try to enjoy it.
Posted by Kay Perry (Kay Perry, Broker) over 12 years ago
Ah the poor spouses of real estate agents.  And it's not just spouses; friends can often do the same thing.  I suppose that's why we end up with so many agents in our friends pool -- we all understand the pain.
Posted by Gregory Maley, REALTOR, GRI, CBR, SHS, e-PRO, ABR (Sold Buy the Sea Realty & R.E.N.T.) over 12 years ago

LOL Patricia...

Now I want someone to ask Blog Boy (Broker Bryant) and I if we sold a home today or how was our day :)

We are empty nesters and work from home. No one cares about our day :)  


Posted by "The Lovely Wife" (Broker Bryantnulls Wife) The One And Only TLW. (President-Tutas Towne Realty, Inc.) over 12 years ago

Pat before I became a Realtor 5 years ago I would ask my husband who has been a Realtor for 25 years (I'm very proud) the same. He would always reply "great". After I started my career I realized he is just a special man, because I'll be damned if my days are always great.

Posted by Maria Couto, Realtor with "Results That "MOVE" You' (RE/MAX Premier) over 12 years ago

Brian, I think you and your wife have each other quite well trained!  And I know you enjoy making her smile!

Della, that is just a perfect reply!

Charlie, my broker doesn't ask, and her face really lights up when we tell!

And Melissa, well, if you have a crappy day, he'll probably let you share about that!

Posted by Patricia Kennedy, Home in the Capital (RLAH Real Estate) over 12 years ago
Love Della's response.  I am going to start that from now on!  There may be some re-training necessary !!
Posted by James Downing - Metro DC Houses Team REALTORS®, CRS, GRI, ABR,MRP, MilRes, When Looking to Buy or Sell - Make the Right Move (Real Living | At Home) over 12 years ago

Jeanean, I'm planning a couple of woo hoo days this week. 

Amanda, neither one of my ex-husbands is likely to ever marry another Realtor!  Maybe if they'd had support groups it would have helped!

Gaye, he probably does find it interesting!  It is interesting!

Katerina, my fantasy is to be married to a Realtor!  You and Nestor and Broker B and TLW paint a pretty neat picture!

Gregory, a lot of my friend are also clients, and a lot of them actually know each other!  So I can't rant a lot to them!

TLW, yeah, while he's out running around and you're skinny dipping in the pool in between appointments!  Sounds like a tough life!  Those of us up north have a touch of climate envy right now.

And Maria,  if that's the only thing he fibs about, you guys are lucky.

Posted by Patricia Kennedy, Home in the Capital (RLAH Real Estate) over 12 years ago

James, so, is this about retraining that cute dogs of yours.  And could he talk?


Posted by Patricia Kennedy, Home in the Capital (RLAH Real Estate) over 12 years ago
Patricia - I met recently with my most recent 'ex' and we discussed real estate. He has nothing to do with real estate, but was sure full of advice on how I need to do this and that to get the business rolling up here the way it was down in Port Charlotte. I tried to explain that it is normal to take time to get where I was - I just moved over 100 miles north - but he knew everything better - made me remember why we aren't together anymore!!!
Posted by Billnulls Blog Florida Realty Professional, AHWD (Charles Rutenberg Realty) over 12 years ago